Patricia Campanile Senior Associate Edgewalkers International
Decision Making has never been one of my strong points. Even when I was younger I had difficulty deciding what I wanted. Actually, I wanted too much and the thought of choosing ONE thing meant I had to close off my other options. Life is a smorgasburg for me. I often get the sample platter when I eat Indian food so I can try everything. I realize that some of what fuels this indecision and resistance to making one choice is that I have a serious case of FOMA (Fear of Missing Out). I have learned the hard way that choosing from fear, from missing out, or in reaction to what I did not want, resulted in not always making clear and conscious choices that were best for me. The more I focused on what I did not want or the fear of loss, I kept attracting what I did not want and loss and disappointment. I did not have the commitment and focus to clearly connect with my inner desire. I had not identified what I truly wanted and needed in order to make the best decision for my life and create the results that supported my life, work and relationships.
One aspect of my spiritual journey as an Edgewalker has been discovering HOW to make conscious choices. Over time I have strengthened my intuition by trusting my gut instincts and being quiet while feeling and listening to my body. At times I am conflicted when my heart wants one thing and my mind says another. When this happens and I feel stuck or paralyzed and don’t know what to do, I co-create with the Universe and ask for CEO signs (Clear, Easy, Obvious). I am learning non-attachment and accepting that just because I have a plan, LIFE often has another path for me that is far better than I could have ever imagined.
Staying awake, curious, conscious and available to shift is required to thrive and grow. It is also necessary to recognize and allow any feelings of loss, grief, disappointment, regret, and sadness we may experience when things don’t go according to plan. Loving what is, knowing that everything that happens is happening FOR us, NOT to us, enables us to stay open to Plan B, C or whatever life presents us. Timing is everything and knowing when to choose is key in discovering and following our right path. When we make conscious choices in spite of uncertainty and the unknown, a fertile ground is laid for new ideas, opportunities, creative solutions, innovation and new beginnings. We can choose to stand in our mastery and sovereignty, knowing that we are in authentic alignment with our Highest Truth. When we do this LIFE magically organizes itself to support our intentions, dreams and desires.
Now more than ever, with so much uncertainty and unknown, plans can change in a moment. It takes courage and wisdom to adapt and be flexible. These qualities and skills are getting a lot of practice with all changes in the world. What we resist persists has new meaning. We are NOT in control is often a difficult realization that can also be a relief. If the door is not opening is not our door. Individually and collectively we are being asked to stop, breathe, let go, and see what happens. Go with the flow and more WILL be revealed in perfect time!
Karen Karg says
Thank you! I love this and it’s no accident I read it tonight. I too have had a hard time making decisions. Often times making choices in order to receive approval and then being hurt and embarrassed if I didn’t get it. Life goes a whole lot better if I let go and trust myself and the universe. Keep writing please!
Love you and hope you and Dario are well.
Patricia Campanile says
Thank you dear Karen for reading this and your response. I can relate and support you in trusting yourself and the Universe. Good for you, it is a process! I will keep writing and value your encouragement.
Love to you and Rolin. All is well with Dario and I thank you!
Patricia